Happiness Is A New Idea

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Happiness Is A New Idea

In November 2020, I wrote a post titled “Love, Undeserving Of” It was a moment of reflection, prompted by someone telling me they didn’t feel good enough for me. I was confused, not because I thought I was above anyone, but because I’ve always held a deep sense of my own worthiness, my capability, and my right to be loved. As always, I went somewhere and 'sat down' to search for clarity and understanding regarding the root of this feeling, not just in others, but within myself.

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Don’t Use Your Sadness As a Weapon

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Don’t Use Your Sadness As a Weapon

We all experience sadness— It’s a fundamental part of being human. Whether it stems from a loss, disappointment, or a difficult life situation, sadness is a natural emotion that helps us process our experiences. When I read my daily update via Co-Star I immediately understood. I don't believe I weaponize my sadness, I typically go inward and isolate not wanting to pull anyone into it. However, I recognize a fine line between feeling sad and using that sadness as a weapon in our relationships; love, marriage, friendship, family, and work. When sadness becomes a tool for manipulation, it can damage trust, create resentment, and ultimately deteriorate the foundation of even the strongest connections. 

Manipulation is a strong word choice,

"But it is what it is."

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Emotional Polemics

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Emotional Polemics

Benefit of the doubt doesn’t apply when it comes to the appeasing of lingering feelings. What I’ve realized is that my friends had emotions tied into previous relationships, just as I had emotions. Closure is finding the ending. And that ending can sound like Adele’s Someone Like You or it sounds like Never Someone Like Me.

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I'm Proud of You

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I'm Proud of You

There are few phrases as simple yet impactful as "I'm proud of you." When spoken genuinely, it lifts others in ways we might not fully appreciate until we hear them ourselves.

As we navigate through life, striving and working hard, we often doubt ourselves. We chase after goals, endure setbacks, and sometimes get lost in the grind. Amidst all this, it's easy to forget to pause and recognize our achievements, let alone hear someone else do it…

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Friday Afternoon Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

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Friday Afternoon Musings and What’s On My Mind Right Now

Honor among thieves, the 2024 election cycle.

During my last eight years at BofA, I formed strong connections with folks. Yesterday, I felt immense gratitude while talking with a former coworker who has become a great friend. I initiated the call and started with, “I have ten people in my favorites on my phone, and you are one of them.” We weren’t talking about anything in particular, but it highlighted how much I value genuine connections…

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Random Observation About Nothing #2,549,954

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Random Observation About Nothing #2,549,954

I’ve been married twice, both times to a Virgo. Their quirks and classic traits have become my baseline. Eighteen years with one and over twenty with the other have shaped my entire adult life. If you asked me how a woman would act in any given scenario, my perspective would be undeniably influenced by my experiences with them…

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Think In Images

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Think In Images

Experiences shape our understanding and appreciation of the world in vivid, lasting images. Art captures the essence of emotions, nature's beauty speaks to our souls through its colors and forms, and cooking becomes an act of love and connection. Each teaches us to think in images, enhancing our lives with memories that stay with us forever.

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Wounding and Healing

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Wounding and Healing

I wrote this post in December 2013, and it's fascinating how little has changed since then.

Reposting now—

Exercise in Observation

My social media streams are diverse. Included are elements of everything that I love; music, food, photography, sports, and reading [books and blogs]. There are very few antipathies, if I encounter anything I disagree with, rather than debate I remind myself that living souls have the right to believe who, what, when, where, and why they want.

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Lol, I’m Just Serious

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Lol, I’m Just Serious

Connection Crabbing

Connection crabbing is often the result of a relationship catalyst-- one of two parties seeking to end a relationship, whether social media or ones that spill over into the streets. The other party's hurt and confusion become destructive and are exhibited in this manner, either out of feelings of rejection or a desire to control and hurt. 

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Hi-Jacked Social Media Term – Emotional Intelligence 

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Hi-Jacked Social Media Term – Emotional Intelligence 

Emotional intelligence is a widely used term, but its meaning has often been distorted. It is frequently described as the capacity to perceive, utilize, comprehend, manage, and deal with emotions.

People with high emotional intelligence are believed to recognize their emotions and those of others, use emotional information to guide their thinking and behavior, differentiate between feelings, label them appropriately, and adjust their emotions to adapt to different environments. This is a trait that many folks seeking love on social media list as something they desire in a partner.

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Logical Calisthenics

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Logical Calisthenics

As Summer approaches and we move into the season where carrying sand to the beach is prohibited and where sundresses become the norm, breakups become more common. Men retreat into their soft guy era, women move into a no-contact zone. 

We are at an impasse, and the only way forward is with Logical Calisthenics. Try this calisthenics routine in the morning when you wake up or at night before bed…

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Home, body.

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Home, body.

As a homebody, people often assume that I am boring or unadventurous, but that's not the case. Just last weekend I went on an adventure. I left my apartment at 7:00 AM and by 7:30 AM, I had spent a hundred dollars easily. I enjoy being at home because everything is paid for, including food, internet, drinks, water, and electricity…

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Equal. Mutual. Reciprocal.

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Equal. Mutual. Reciprocal.

I believe the tendency of truth, on this subject, is to equalize the sexes; and that, when truth directs us, there will be no longer assumed authority on one side, or admitted inferiority on the other; but that as we advance in the cultivation of all our powers, physical as well as intellectual and moral, we shall see that our independence is equal, our dependence mutual, and our obligations reciprocal.

-Lucretia Mott

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Wednesday Evening Sensory Inputs

 Her smile might have hidden a fractured state, but the joy was feral.

Love by the gallon poured down her perfect touch.

Fresh flowers, a hint of caramel-- lingering in the air she leaves.

I call her name, caught up in how sweet it sounds, it quickly turns to semantic satiation where nothing has meaning anymore.

Her kiss is flavorful.

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Things I Would Write About But I Don't Feel Like It

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Things I Would Write About But I Don't Feel Like It

Clairs’ -Clairaudience 

Clairaudient messages sound like someone talking in my mind. It is never harsh. The tone is always even and calm. Usually short messages like Yoda, and at times poetic. Reading, listening, watching, and learning more about intuition is opening my own intuition and clairaudient potential…

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