Why does this trigger people?
I silence mine because I don’t want to witness the end of time, shutting myself off to the uncertainty of whatever is going on /end
It’s not that deep. Focus modes automatically silences notifications; driving, personal, work, and etcetera.
A short story starring ME…
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“It is the character of very few Wo/Men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered”
I’ve been holding court with The Key and she has been trying to reconcile envy and jealousy in her relationship categories: Love, Work, Family and Friendships.
Read MoreI B’ chopping it up with The Glaws about life, all its ironic twists, and how they may sometimes startle us. /End Dramatics. I’ve been laughing considering the truth in something she shared with me, I’m paraphrasing but the gist is that we’re attracted to people who look like our parents. All of you that know me also know my preference; five-nine, medium to dark skin, natural (hair, nails, etcetera) …
Read MoreI’m having déjà vu and amnesia at the same time— I think I’ve written this before. Maybe it was a conversation with one of the two of you who read my blog?
The other night I celebrated with a friend on her birthday, there were three of us— It was small and intimate. A week prior I got F.R.E.S.H. with a full haircut to celebrate another friend on her birthday. Due to timing and a need to ‘stay ready,’ I got a ‘fresh up (hair and beard line up) for the weeks’ end activities.
Read MoreJust because it's public, still doesn't make it my business.
I’ve destroyed and rebuilt my online presence at least four times. I’ve used different usernames, UnknownBlackMale having the greatest run, what a time. Then I embraced a different approach. I started using my real name, real photo and I stopped policing how others use social media. It has kept me accountable, when I Am mindful (but not really) of what I post I reduce the risk of my future baby mama seeing me turning up with a bunch of hose.
Read MoreThe theme in my relationships during the past few weeks is centered around losing. All of you are weird so my non-romantic relationships.
I’m single, tell your single aunties about me.
Read More“… fuck you and your lame ass friends.”
This is a line from a comment on Fair Trade. I couldn’t care less about the comment, but it made me think a lot about friendship and what it means to be a friend. 'Friend' has been bastardized so much that when someone uses it, we aren’t sure if the person means something or they’re just some random nigga they have an eConnection with.
Read MoreWhenever someone hops into Reese Cup they comment on the smell. I don’t have the official stats but understand there aren’t a lot of folks in and out of her.
Pause.
I can count on two hands how many people have ridden in my car so I’ma say 10 outta 10 riders love the smell.
Read MoreI Am (rather I can be) laid back and unruffled. I try not to take anything too personal; I also try to avoid absorbing others negativity. Statistics have shown that 63.48% of the time when others are upset with you it has very little to do with you. I watched Ted Lasso S03 EP9 this morning. Isaac charges into the stands after a fan screams derogatory language towards him…
Read MoreRecently I wrote about meeting people where they are.
MEETING PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE
Young, Middle Age, and Older Adults
Over the past ten years, I have connected with truly remarkable people. Our lives go better connecting with those who help us evolve into our higher selves. Life has taught me to see the best in people, and it’s driven me mental when people see the worst in me. Life should say show them the best in themselves because they forget that. Self-improvement is a two-way street.
Read MoreThere’s been so much talk lately about what men and women bring to the table.
I’m sure you’ve heard it…unless you’ve been living under a rock somewhere.
I don’t understand why men and women are going to war over something so trivial.
As a woman of faith, I’m sure you know that you’re not a table…
Read MoreSociety has us in a chokehold when it comes to what we should be doing. We should be married before children, graduate college, working a respectable job, own a home and car, and be mentally stable while dealing with the fuckshit called life. We also should be in a position to take care of our parents because, ya know, they raised us.
What society does not tell us is…
Read MoreForty-One Years To Life, Forever Young, Life Changes
These are a series of written essays submitted by family and friends centered around aging however, in a construct of youth. Cleo shared a thought that resonated and as I looked back over the series, I realized a common theme.
Growth
Read MoreBack in the days when I was a teenager. Before I had status and before I had a pager. You could find the Abstract listening to hip hop. My pops used to say, it reminded him of be-bop. I said, well daddy don't you know that things go in cycles. The way that Bobby Brown is just ampin like Michael. It's all expected, things are for the lookin. If you got the money, Quest is for the bookin’
Things do go in cycles. Summer is coming and I’m reminded of the top five boos of all time…
Read MoreI have photos of me framed and on display in my bedroom. Is this vanity? Don't answer, its rhetorical. No one is ever in my bedroom, so I stare at my photos until the answer comes to me.
Now look at me, look at me. How much vanity do you see…
Read MoreI been losing friends and finding peace. Honestly, that sounds like a fair trade to me.
Y’all know my thoughts on this… I don’t argue, I don’t ponder, I move on as I’m sure they do.
Read MoreThe other person is never the problem. The problem is our reaction.
On the daily there are a myriad of ways people vex me yo’. Horrible drivers, ineffectual, rude, inconsiderate, moving too slow, moving too fast, not tidy, uncaring…
Read MoreSusceptible to physical or emotional injury. Susceptible to attack. Liable to succumb, as to persuasion or temptation.
Not likely to fail or give way; stable. Assured; certain. In safe custody. Not likely to fail, become loose, etc. Free from fear or doubt; easy in mind.
We all are vulnerable, we all must also be S E C U R E
Read MoreToday I remind myself and y’all of the self-locality of my views, assumptions, and conclusions, and to explicitly affirm the right of y’all to hold your own but I ain’t gon’ hold y’all, this is my post so find something safe to do.
We bastardized the terms we use in relationships, the number one stunner “emotionally available.” There are women using this as a talking point and posted as the headline on their dating/ social media profile. I find it curious when I consider the women who are using this, my observation is that they themselves have negative emotional attachments showing up as a hidden appeal of deprivation.
Read MoreI had a friend check in with me this week. We spoke about (me) having a good week and hitting all my ‘metrics’ — Meditation, prayer, exercise, reading, water, sleep and I checked in/checked on some folks while minding my business. They in turn discussed the challenges they faced and asked how I outwardly manage to hold things together.
I am hopeful, despite my circumstances, because I choose to be happy.
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